There are different types of tantric massage
If you are new to tantric massage, it is a good idea to do some research before booking an appointment. This way, you can ensure that you have the experience that you set out to have. This is because tantric massage includes a wide variety of services.
Some tantric massage sessions are offered purely for pleasure and relaxation purposes. These are sometimes also called ‘erotic massage’, ‘sensual massage’, or even a ‘happy ending massage’. These are often focused on providing pleasure to the client, with the focus being on the main erogenous zones in the body. These include the mouth, breasts, nipples, anus, lingam and yoni. The sessions usually last between 1-2 hours. For male bodied clients, the option of ejaculation at the end of the session is usually offered by many practitioners.
Receiving pleasure is healing to the body. Read more about the healing benefits of erotic touch.
Other tantric massage sessions are offered for therapeutic or educational reasons. These can also be called ‘tantric therapy’, ‘tantric healing’, ‘energy work’, ‘sexual healing’, ‘sexual de-armouring’, ‘sexological bodywork’ and ‘trauma healing’, amongst others.
Practitioners who are focused on giving therapeutic sessions have usually done more training, and often hold relevant qualifications in the work they do. Although they also work with pleasure and erotic touch, orgasms are not the goal of the sessions. Instead, therapists aim to remove any physical, emotional and energetic blocks that may be present.
Working with sexual energy
Therapists also work with sexual energy in a different way. Clients are helped to experience the movement of that energy through the whole body, and not just in the genital area, as is often the case with only pleasure-focused sessions. This also means that tantric therapists usually don’t offer the offer of ejaculation for male bodied clients. Instead, clients are taught how to separate orgasm from ejaculation, to enable them to experience multiple orgasms and to allow the energy to move through their body.
Overcoming sexual dysfunction
Therapists are also trained to deal with sexual dysfunction. For example, common issues that male bodied clients come with are erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation and inhibited ejaculation. Female bodied clients often suffer from experiencing dyspareunia, or painful sex, and an inability to get aroused or reach orgasm.
More than sex therapy
Tantric healing offers more than dealing with sexual dysfunction. Both individuals and couples can benefit from enhancing intimacy and communication skills, and learning to open up to more pleasure in the body. Bodywork is a way of working with the body that can help to release stress and tension from the body. Therapists are often also trained in working with trauma, both of a sexual and non-sexual nature. Tantric massage that is focused on healing can deal with overcoming body issues, addictions, compulsive behaviours and depression, amongst others.
Choosing the right practitioner for you
Firstly, it is important to have some clarity over what you want to have the session for. Once you know whether you want a pleasure-only or a therapy-centred session, you can look for a practitioner.
There are many people who offer tantric massage, so when looking for a practitioner, here is a checklist that may be useful:
- Find out what training they have done, and what qualifications they hold
- Find out how much experience they have
- Find out what they offer
- Check if they have a website with a photo of them, contact details and testimonials on it
- Follow your intuition
Note also that a genuine practitioner should never try to persuade or pressurise you into doing something which you do not want. For example, if you do not want to take some or all of your clothes off, or experience receiving a yoni or a prostate massage, your wishes should be respected at all times. If something ever doesn’t feel right during a session, know that you can always request for the session to be stopped.
I offer tantric massage sessions that are therapy and healing focused in Teesside/ North Yorkshire (within easy driving distance of Leeds, Newcastle, York & Durham) and in London. Read more about tantric massage therapy treatments