Lingam Massage: A Guide to Sacred Male Bodywork
Lingam massage is an ancient tantric practice designed to bring healing, connection, and deeper awareness to the male body. The word “lingam” comes from Sanskrit and means “wand of light,” referring not only to the male genitalia but also to its symbolic power as a channel for energy and transformation. Unlike traditional erotic or sensual massage, lingam massage has a broader, deeper purpose. It is not simply about pleasure — it is a meditative, healing experience that nurtures both the body and the psyche.
It is usually offered as part of a full body massage, and not just a stand-alone service, and involves the use of different techniques for touching the lingam. There are many different reasons why a man may want to receive a lingam massage. These can be therapeutic, for example – to help with erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation. Other reasons include experiencing pleasure or learning to separate orgasm from ejaculation. Read more about how to perform a lingam massage, and the benefits from Healthline.
The Purpose of Lingam Massage
At its core, lingam massage invites the receiver into a space of conscious touch, vulnerability, and surrender. Rather than focusing solely on arousal, the session offers an opportunity to experience the lingam — and the entire pelvic region — as sacred, powerful, and worthy of care. For many men, it’s the first time their bodies are touched with such reverence, intention, and presence.
Through this practice, tension and trauma stored in the body may begin to release. Lingam massage has been known to help those dealing with sexual dysfunctions such as erectile issues, premature ejaculation, and inhibited ejaculation. By working with both physical and energetic pathways, the session can support men in reconnecting with their bodies and cultivating healthier, more embodied expressions of intimacy.
This is done by working with both the physical body and the mind to address any underlying physical or psychological issues. This involves helping the client to be mindful to notice what may come up during a session – for example, anxiety around performance, fear of intimacy, and many other reasons. No two people are the same, and the reasons for experiencing erectile and ejaculatory issues vary widely.
What to Expect during a Lingam Massage Session
The length of a tantric bodywork therapy session varies, depending on which practitioner you visit. The sessions I offer are either 3 or 4 hours long. There is time to talk when you first arrive, and then for you to take a shower before coming back into the therapy space. We would then spend some time connecting with eye gazing and receiving touch to different parts of your body if that felt right for you. I only give the kind of touch that is wanted by you, to those parts of the body that you want to receive touch. Consent and boundaries play an important role in this work and I always respect the boundaries that are true for you.
Before the lingam massage, I offer a full body massage to relax the body, including the option of a prostate massage. The lingam massage varies in length of time, usually from half an hour to an hour – although it can be shorter or longer, depending on your preferences and reasons for receiving the treatment. I use different techniques to massage the testicles and lingam.
Lingam Massage: To Ejaculate or Not?
The option of completing the lingam massage with an ejaculation depends on the practitioner. It is common for tantric therapists not to offer ejaculation at the end. Instead, the focus is on keeping sexual energy in the body and moving it from the genital area to other parts. I tend to work with clients who want to learn to have full-body orgasms or other tantric techniques, and as such usually do not offer ejaculation as part of the service. However, under some circumstances, such as when a client finds it difficult to ejaculate, it may be part of the therapy. There are many benefits of learning semen retention techniques to ejaculate less frequently and feel more pleasure in the body. Read more about why some men choose to abstain from ejaculation from Male Fertility & Sexual Health Specialists.
What if I Just Want Pleasure and Stress Relief?
Many men may find that an ejaculation at the end of a lingam massage aids them with relieving stress. Although this kind of session can be pleasurable and relaxing, please note that this is not something I offer. Instead, I use different tools to help clients achieve a more permanent state of relaxation and well-being. And, of course, feeling pleasure, and expanding the amount of pleasure clients can feel, is part of the therapy. This also includes identifying and working through any blocks to feeling pleasure and sensation in the body. Common blocks include shame, anxiety and holding tension in the body.
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I offer sessions in Teesside/ North Yorkshire, and London to both individuals and couples.
Updated May 2025