Tantric Therapy for Couples: Deepening Intimacy and Connection
Intimate relationships are defined as “interdependent… involving emotional, physical or sexual closeness” (or all three). Connection within a relationship “often involves understanding, empathy, mutual support and building trust over time”. Furthermore, the connection also includes the way we connect to ourselves. The world around us, not just our loved ones or people in general. So how can tantric therapy for couples help to foster intimacy and connection for them individually, and together?
Taking Time Out Together
Many people lead busy lives and couples often find. Spending quality time together is a balancing act between work, kids, and other commitments. For many, simply taking three or four hours to be together during the day with the phones switched off is a luxury. Sometimes just this is enough to spark a greater opening of the hearts, honest conversations, fun, and laughter. Learning massage skills is often a great way for couples to bond and connect. Whilst also having something to take away with them after the session.
Honest and Loving Communication
The partners that can both say and hear what they, and their loved one, really think and feel, can use this as an opportunity for greater connection. This is both when the communication is positive about the things they like about the other, and when it is about something they would like to be different. The important point here is how the communication is delivered – anything.
That sounds like blame or judgment is usually not received well and tends to be counter-productive. Learning different ways of phrasing what we mean using tools such as the non-violent communication model can make a huge difference between arguing and disconnecting and growing closer together. Tantric therapy for couples can help them to learn these essential skills. Read more about 10 communication tips for couples here.
The Yin & Yang – Moving Beyond Differences
Tantric therapy for couples can also help partners to better understand each other’s sexual similarities and differences. The ancient Chinese philosophy of living in balance with the universe is called Taoism, and those practicing it are Taoists. When it comes to sexuality, they believe that women take longer than men to get aroused, but once they get there, they stay there longer.
They are like a large pot of water getting heated by a small flame. Men, on the other hand, can both get aroused and cool down more quickly – they are like a small pot of water getting heated by a large, roaring flame. Whilst I am not at all saying that all women and men are like this as of course there are many exceptions, overall it does appear to be a common pattern.
Understanding these differences can help. The couple learns ways to ensure that foreplay and sex are stimulating and satisfying to both. To this end, being honest and open about what is working and what you are wanting, equally with what is not working and what you are not wanting, can pave the way for better intimacy.
I offer sessions to couples in Teesside, London, and online. For more information